Postpartum Sex and Intimacy Are Challenging

Let’s not get it twisted, sex isn’t the same thing as intimacy and sex after baby can be scary. I was super nervous. I even asked my waxer if it “looked normal down there” 🤦🏼‍♀️ I thought it wouldn’t feel the same for both of us. I didn’t want it to hurt me and then be tense the whole time. I was always covered in spit-up, rarely showered, and had to find time to brush my teeth. I was nursing around the clock and Eric wanted to make sure I was ready and okay. He didn’t want me to be in any pain. It took me about 4 months to feel comfortable just trying again. Bottom line, women just need some time to adjust after labor. And most partners do too! Most men are scared too. Are you with me? 🙋🏼‍♀️

Here are some tips & things to remember:

Sex:

✔️ 85% of couples have issues

✔️ Start Slow

✔️ Communicate with your partner

✔️ Set boundaries before your start

✔️ Be in a position that gives you the control

✔️ Schedule it

✔️ Try it out by yourself first

✔️ Try new things that make you feel comfortable and sexy

Intimacy:

✔️ Communication is key

✔️ Set boundaries so your partner doesn’t feel rejected

✔️ Touch each other, hug, kiss, hold hands

✔️ Include your partner in your new parent findings

✔️ Praise each other often

Always make sure you talk to your doctor first. Normally, they will clear you for sex at 6 weeks PP. But that doesn’t mean you’re mentally ready. Talk to your partner. If sex is painful, stop. Don’t suffer through it. Talk to our doctor if you feel any abnormal pain.

How long did you wait to have sex after baby?

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